tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post3704350201437453118..comments2023-03-14T06:56:21.208-07:00Comments on The Relevant Parsha: In Search of a MatriarchRabbi Yisroel Gordonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06732599880950749051noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-82209261494648963202007-11-06T07:54:00.000-08:002007-11-06T07:54:00.000-08:00excellent writing- very refreshing and enjoyable.ב...excellent writing- very refreshing and enjoyable.<BR/><BR/>בידידות,<BR/>EliyahuAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12088910026121351673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-1007260369329922092007-11-05T18:27:00.000-08:002007-11-05T18:27:00.000-08:00Your subtitle notwithstanding, perhaps a little Ka...Your subtitle notwithstanding, perhaps a little Kabbala could be helpful here. The relevance of the commitment of "lech lecha/lach" is the concentrative quality of KETER as it says in the opening of Tomer Devorah, "ראוי שיתדמה אל פעלות הכתר…’ which is pure chefetz like the chefetz of HaKadosh Baruch Hu before the Briah, the Avos must have this mida. Rivka had to exhibit not simply חסד but חסד של אמת . See <A HREF="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=micah%207:18-20&version=31" REL="nofollow">Michah 7:18-20</A>.<BR/>With apologies.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12186780221810206221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-73781400436764547172007-11-04T13:34:00.000-08:002007-11-04T13:34:00.000-08:00Rabbi Seinfeld-You asked: "If the test of lech lec...Rabbi Seinfeld-<BR/>You asked: "If the test of lech lecha was so important for Riva, why then does Avraham tell Eliezer that if "the girl" won't go with him, he is absolved of the oath? Why not tell him to find another girl from Haran who will pass the test?"<BR/>That's the best question Iv'e been hit with yet. I guess Avraham knew there was only one girl in the running.<BR/><BR/>Rabbi Apt-<BR/>I refer you to R. Seinfeld's exquisite defense of the relevancy on my post. I would add another point. The chiddush here is that certain things must be surrendered to God, especially when it comes to Shidduchim. You just can't test for everything. Two things, however, must be checked: (Jewish) lineage and (religious) commitment.Rabbi Yisroel Gordonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06732599880950749051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-41078026750254550622007-11-04T12:06:00.000-08:002007-11-04T12:06:00.000-08:00Rabbi Apt - I don't understand your question. Unle...Rabbi Apt - I don't understand your question. Unless you mean that since you are already married or because you are not a woman it's not relevant. Because I understood the Chaver's point to be that an Eishes Chayil should have some measure of gevurah along with her requisite chesed. In other words, we like to tell our sons, see, look at Rivka for your model on what to look for in a shidduch. Well, what exactly does Rivka look like? R. Gordon has expanded that image for us.Rabbi Seinfeldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519288133566248280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-52012133330598216622007-11-04T12:00:00.000-08:002007-11-04T12:00:00.000-08:00Rabbi Gordon-I really like your explanation of the...Rabbi Gordon-<BR/>I really like your explanation of the story. However I'm having much difficulty understanding how it belongs on a blog that claims to be relevant. I have no idea what this has to do with "you and me today".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-10435589366270254082007-11-04T10:57:00.000-08:002007-11-04T10:57:00.000-08:00A very nice drasha, yashar koach; however: if the ...A very nice drasha, yashar koach; however: if the test of lech lecha was so important for Riva, why then does Avraham tell Eliezer that if "the girl" won't go with him, he is absolved of the oath? Why not tell him to find another girl from Haran who will pass the test?Rabbi Seinfeldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519288133566248280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-76291785973104240572007-11-03T23:02:00.000-07:002007-11-03T23:02:00.000-07:00Anonymous-You got me. I contradicted myself.Anonymous-<BR/>You got me. I contradicted myself.Rabbi Yisroel Gordonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06732599880950749051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-18262788248013895922007-11-03T23:00:00.000-07:002007-11-03T23:00:00.000-07:00Rabbi Gordon,Your whole parsha post was about Rivk...Rabbi Gordon,<BR/>Your whole parsha post was about Rivkah needing gevurah. Why then did you write to Aaron that you don't recommend two people with gevurah to marry each other?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-78350678824212079902007-11-03T22:57:00.000-07:002007-11-03T22:57:00.000-07:00Aaron-People don't come black or white. Everyone h...Aaron-<BR/>People don't come black or white. Everyone has both chesed & gevurah. Avraham had the gevurah for the Akidah and Yitzchak had the chesed to tolerate Eisav. The question is which characteristic is more dominant in your personality. <BR/>As for a shidduch, I really don't know how to pair people up. My Bubby used to say that there are flowers and there are gardeners. Flowers can marry flowers and a flower can marry a gardener. But gardeners shouldn't marry gardeners. I figure gevurah people shouldn't marry each other either.<BR/><BR/>Sandy-<BR/>I don't know why Avraham thought it crucial that Rivkah have gevurah. But it does seem that way. As for us, it is hard to say what's best. See what I wrote in response to Aaron.Rabbi Yisroel Gordonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06732599880950749051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-68684619352078326892007-11-02T11:51:00.000-07:002007-11-02T11:51:00.000-07:00Avraham and Sarah were known to have a very close ...Avraham and Sarah were known to have a very close and special relationship. However, it seems to me they did not have similiar personalities. Avraham was all chesed and compassion, while Sarah was more inclined to din (judgement). Sarah pushed Hagar away and she also decided Yishmael needed to be sent out of the house. Even with these differences, we know that Avraham and Sarah's marriage had kedusha (holiness). Why then is it so important that Yitzhak and Rivkah have the same qualities?<BR/>Sandy GordonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36649445.post-70342401180052077772007-11-02T09:41:00.000-07:002007-11-02T09:41:00.000-07:00rabbi, does this mean that without the without the...rabbi, does this mean that without the without the woman's combinaion of chesed and gevurah, that a "bayis ne'eman beyisrael" is destined to be a failure?<BR/>--aaron fragerAaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300297989119759744noreply@blogger.com